Why Be A Cookie Cut Out If You Can Invent A New Mold?
Focus on being yourself instead of focusing on being like somebody else!
If happiness comes from within then why do we spend so much time seeking it elsewhere? Why do we fixate on distractions and our physical aesthetic rather than finding comfort on the inside? Why do we spend so much time comparing ourselves to others and obtaining our endorphins by telling ourselves we are better, thinner, prettier, more successful than someone else? What has that other person done to you? How does that other person's success or appearance interfere with your ability to find happiness or success? Why can’t we just focus on ourselves? Why don’t I compare myself to myself? Some people always say your biggest competitor is yourself and I truly believe they are on to something.
Think about it. If you compare yourself to yourself then your competition will always be with you. You can never make excuses as to why something is happening like when you try to compare yourself to a model and say “oh but she has so much free time to work out or she has a faster metabolism.” When you compare yourself to yourself, your metabolism is the same, your free time is whatever you make it to be. By focusing on yourself instead of others around you it’s more of a controlled experiment since a majority of the variables will be the same.
A huge challenge is the presence of social media as it influences us to stare at other people’s lifestyles, bodies, purchases and reminds us of what we do not have or even what we do. As easy as it is to say “why don’t you just delete social media” it tends to be much harder to execute. So instead cleanse your social media. Keep those people who make you feel good about yourself, who empower you to do better, who motivate you to succeed, and inspire you to achieve new things. Delete those who make you second guess yourself, make you feel like less of a person, who brings negativity in your life. It is always important to acknowledge the negativity that infiltrates your environment. It is important to remember that you are in control of what you bring into your life and that means you are in control of what you can remove from your life.
With all that being said, focus on yourself. Be your own motivator and realise that the only way you know if you grew or not is to see who you were before and who you are now. Your biggest measuring tool is yourself. Just like how our parents used to mark our heights on the wall as we were growing taller, the only person your height was compared to was yourself and that’s how you knew you grew. The same thing happens in life, so focus on being whatever version of yourself you think is the best and remove the toxicity of comparing yourself to others. If we were all the same what a boring world we would live in. Avoid the cookie-cutter lifestyle, there is a reason not everyone is a model, professional athlete, politician. Diversity is what keeps the world an interesting place.
Remember that by being your unique self you can add something new to the world something different instead of being one of the hundred cookie-cutter versions of someone who already exists.